This is one thing that I picked up during my years of being in the BDSM/play party scene. The thing is, the word 'objectify' tends to have a demeaning hint to it, which isn't what I'm advocating. In reality, there can be something extremely sexy about 'objectifying' your long-term partner. Whether the majority of your sexual play with your partner is either of the 10-20 minute formulaic lovemaking set or the two- to four-hour extended exploratory style, you may have started to take certain parts of their body for granted just because you're so used to them. Quickies reconnect you with your raw desire for your partner. Because really, being selfish can be great and healthy sometimes! 3. Put your lips all over them and be greedy about it. Touch yourself where you need it to climax as quickly as possible. Grab that body part of theirs that you love so much. So, what does this mean and why is it relevant? It means many people tend to have a bit more reluctance being selfish and taking care of their own sexual needs. Most people tend to have a deeper and easier relationship with their light side. Neither side is wrong, right, or better than the other.

I've talked before about the light side and dark side of our sexual desires (à la yin and yang). (This actually might be my favorite metaphor I've come up with to date.) 2. I'm so glad I just dove right in there.' That is the nature of the quickie.

You'll be left sweaty and messy, thinking, 'That was amazing. But while the second scenario is likely going to be a lot less satiating in terms of total caloric intake, it's also going to feel like one of the most beastly, ravenous gorge-fests in your recent memory. You and your partner both get to take your time and truly savor the experience. The first scenario is what an all-evening, extended sex date feels like.

A morning quicky